For this week, I want you to consider deception. Have you ever deceived someone the way Juliet does? She tells those around her what they want to hear, but continues to lie to them by withholding the truth. Write about a time when you either deceived or were deceived by someone. Explain the circumstances that led to the deceptive behavior and the consequences of the deception.
When responding to one of your classmate's posts, comment on whether you think the deception he or she encountered was necessary or not. Explain your reasoning.
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Juliet decieves those around her by thinking one thing, yet saying another. For me, there was one time when I had decieved a friend. I thought that by creating the deception, it would only help to not hurt her feelings. Yet, it turned out that she figured out the truth, and was hurt by it, which led to a fight.
ReplyDeleteWhen one of my friends breaks up with their boyfriend, I use deception to help them feel better. Even if I am thinking my friend is wrong, I have to tell them what they want to hear (things like "he is missing his chance", "you're way too good for him", or "he is such an idiot") because if I said something like "well, you were a little too clingy", she will feel even worse about the breakup and may even get mad at me. Later on after she is over it I can tell her how I really felt because that's what best friends do. The bad thing about deceiving my friends is I am not being completely honest with them, but I am comforting them in a time of need.
ReplyDeleteI have often decieved my parents. When they have asked me to do something important or I happen to break something, I will lie my way out of it. Unfortunately, more often than not I get caught and the consequences are much worse than if I just told the truth. But other times I will decieve someone so I don't hurt their feelings. I try to help them. This can work sometimes and other times it just makes more conflict.
ReplyDeleteDeception can be used in many ways which can all lead to trouble. I had a friend who'm i deceived/lied to and once he found out, we were not friends for a long period of time until one of us apologized. Deception is a very bad technique but can help only in the spur of the moment.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when my friends or family ask me an opinion about their feelings, I read their mind and just tell them what they like to hear. In fact, I do not want to disappoint and discourage them. I have been deceived quite a lot by my friends. I know how much it hurts when you are being lied to, but then I realize that my friends just do not want to hurt my feelings. I am sure that my friends still do the same to me. I have deceived my friends and family too. One time when I was in eighth grade, my Mom asked me where my flute was. I lied to her and told her what she wanted to hear. I told her it was in my band locker. As a matter of fact, it had already been lost. I deceived my parents by not telling the truth. I felt guilty till the moment they actually found out the truth but until then I just wanted to make them happy so that I could have some more time to find my lost flute, but the lie grew larger and larger resulting bad consequences. My parents did not speak to me for about two months. But, parents cannot be so cold hearted every time. They forgave me for what I had done and now I just tell them what they want to hear considering the situation. If it is not necessary to lie, I do not lie. Now I understand that deceiving other is deceiving oneself.
ReplyDeleteThe same rule applies here with Juliet as she lies to her Mom and Paris. She doesn’t want to tell the truth because she knows that the truth will either anger or hurt their feelings
I've decieved my friends a lot before for the fun of it and they didn't like it too much when they found out the truth. They wouldn't speak to me, but if they did, they just said they couldn't trust what I said anymore. Eventually they forgave me so I learned that deceiving others can ruin relationships with those you really care for, even if it's something you wouldn't think is such a big deal.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Laina because decieving others, especially your friends when they need you, could be good and bad. When she said the she decieved her friend when her friend's boyfriend broke up with her, it was a good decision because cheering your friends up can help them get through the tough time they're having. But it's also true that you would feel bad about decieving your friends because you feel that you haven't been completely honest with them and you might regret it,though you mightv'e done it for a good cause.
ReplyDeleteOne time I decieved my parents because I thought that they could not handle the truth at the time, especially since they had a bad day and were already upset. They asked me how I did on a quiz and I said that I thought that I did okay. I actually did poorly on the quiz. I know my mom checks edline frequently, so I knew that they would find out eventually. My parents were upset that I did not tell them about it immediately. We had a talk. After that I changed my study habits for that class by reviewing and rewriting my notes. I ended that class with an A.
ReplyDeleteDeception is never a good thing. It should only be used as a last resort.i had to learn this the hard way. one time when my dad asked me how i was doing in math i told him i was doing really good when in fact i was doing very poorly. When report cards came out he was very disappointed. After that i always told him the the truth. I learned that deception might harm the relationship and it might not always come out in your favor.
ReplyDeleteI think the deception Laina encountered was necessary. As a (good) friend you are not suppose to let your friend feel bad or make them feel even worse so a little deception like "he is not good enough for you" is fine. I can't really remember anytime I might of deceived someone but it was probably to my mom when she is picking out clothes for me. I am not sure if I have ever been personally deceived by someone but I would hope they would not or have a very good reason to.
ReplyDeleteJuliet uses deception to keep herself out of trouble and not hurt others' feelings. Though the deception continues to get deeper because she has to keep lying to prevent her parents from discovering the truth. Once i deceived a friend because i already had plans and couldnt hang out with them. Eventually they found out and when i reflect on it, it wasnt necessary.
ReplyDeleteDeception is lying. It is a way to get around doing somehting you dont want to do but still making the person involved happy. Everone decieves and i have decived my friends. I have told that one thing when really I didn't want to partake in that specific event. When they foubd out they were mad. In truth the consequence to every deception is someone being angry back at you for the deception you pulled on them. It is most always a bad consequence.
ReplyDeleteIn Laina's case I do think deception is necessary because sometimes your opinions can turn into hurtful things. At the moment of sadness your friend is feeling you want to comfort them and worry about the truth later. In cases of someones feelings I think it may be necessary.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that deception was necessary in Rachel's case. To decieve your friends just for enjoyment is kinda cruel. But I agree with Rachel about how deceiving other people can destroy relationships.
ReplyDeletei have not deceived any because i feel that i do not have to, i was always told tell the truth and sometimes the truth hurts, maybe it can ruin future relationships but it just wasnt meant to be. i was deceived though by a friend that thought it would be better to lie to me then to tell me the truth for his benefit, i would have handled the truth if he had told me but he didn't so when i found out i was more mad at the fact that he didn't tell me than what he had done.
ReplyDeleteI have deceived my friends a few times, but it was nothing important or serious. Juliet has deceived so many people that she no longer would be considered a trustworthy person. I have deceived my friends to play around or joke.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Laura, sometimes one must deceive friends to hide painful things. Unfortunately deception might hurt our friend even more. The best thing to do is say the truth.
ReplyDeleteWhen i was on a basketball team my friend used to constatntly make fun of this kid who was not that very good at basketball. He asked me one time aren't I one of the best players you have ever seen? And since he wsa my friend and I thought it wouldnt hurt anyone so i replied, "yeah your like the best" when i didn't even mean it. There were no consequences to my actions because my friend never found out, and now he is actually a pretty good ball player. i agree with Guillermo, decieving people to play around or joke around is okay in my opinion. But i don't think you should do it too often or your friends will start to dislike you.
ReplyDeleteI agree with justin, when you decieve people they tend to trust you less and less. Everytime you say something they might be misconstrue as a lie. The more people are decieved the more distant they beecome.
ReplyDeleteEven though I know deception is wrong, it's a tool I've used on occasion for the benefit of my friends. For instance, one time I saw my friend and he looked depressed, and (like every good friend does) I wanted to cheer him up. We talked and it turns out he and his best friend had an arguement that almost turned into a fight over nothing. Even though my friend started it, I said stuff like "Hey man, it wasn't your fault.""Dude, he was probably pissed at somebody. He'll chill out." or "He's just swell-headed, he'll get over it." Sure deception is bad, but if you do it for the right reason it could be good, right?
ReplyDeletei have been decived before, it didn't help the relationship, but made it weaker. for instance the time when my dad promised me he wold buy me a new mac laptop for my grades, he said "you've been doing so well in school, is there anything you need?" and i replied " a new laptop" he said in return "well i know how to get a mac for cheap, i'll get back to you by the end of the week & let you know the details. that whole week i didn't hear from him at all and i talked to him about a week later& he tells me he couldn't get it, never said why just that he would "lend" me one of his. then about a month later he said i can't get it at all.
ReplyDeletei already resented my dad to start didn't always believe his promises, but this was something i was looking forward to, i was really dissapointed when i found out. now i don't just resent him, but i don't trust him as much anymore.
i agree with laina , in situations like that a person is vaulnerable , & if you say the wrong thing it can spiral into something uneccisary , so the deception was neccisary & sometimes helpful.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Justin, your friends' trust in you lessens every time you decieve them. It just comes down to how much is too much. I don't think you should decieve people too often as well because, like Justin said, "Your friends will start to dislike you."
ReplyDeleteI have decieved many of my friends and family before. I know its wrong and everyone does it but it doesnt always mean its the right thing to do. I've recently decieved my sister. She asked me if she would look good with this new haircut she saw in this magizine and i just told her yes so should would get out of my face. The next day when i came home she had the haircut she had showed me the day before. It looked really bad on her. I felt really bad that day because i really didnt look at that picture and now she has to walk around with that ugly hair cut. Decieving people just comes out to make you feel like a dishonest, lier, who ends up hurting other people feelings.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Laura. Sometimes you thimk that by decieving a friend or family member that you are helping the situation but actually you digging your self into a bigger whole by decieving them. Also by doing this it will make you look bad thus your family and friends will start to not trust you. I also agree with Tiara because it will make you look like a liar.
ReplyDeleteI have been decieved. When I was invited to go to dinner with my friend, I went over to her house and It ended up being something very different than just a simple dinner outing. It turned out to be a surprise part, for me! All my friends who were there had been decieving me for the whole week pretending they had no idea. I suppose being decived can turn out for the better.
ReplyDeleteI believe lying to your parents is deceiving. In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet deceived her parents by marrying Romeo behind their back. A while ago my cousin got involved in a secret relationship with a boy which her parents did not approve of. So while she was talking on the phone with him she told her parents that she was talking to me instead. I felt that she was deceiving her parents and in a way involving me in that deception. If my uncle ever asked me if I was talking to her I would have not known what to say. I think lying and deception are nothing alike but when it comes to lying to your parents I believe its called deception.
ReplyDeleteI agree with amy even though most of the time when people decieve you it ends up turning out very bad. Sometimes in special cases such the "surprise party" that was thrown for amy was a good. In this case deception was a good idea.
ReplyDeletei have often lied to my parents but not to a degree where it would be called "deception". I would only tell them what they would want to hear and leave out all the bad details. However, my parents would eventually find out about all the details i left out which usually results in me getting in more trouble than i would have if i told them everything the first time.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Amy. i think the deception she encountered was necessary because it resulted in a good outcome and didn't hurt anyone.
ReplyDeleteI have been decieved to by my friend, she believes that telling me what I want to hear is good for me but really it hurts me when I learn the truth. My friend overexxagerates the truth and adds details to twist the story in a different direction. She told me that one of my friends was only my friend because she felt bad for me. When I confronted my friend she told me no that she had never said that. Now because my other friend lied and told me that story, it is hard to trust what she says.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Laina. I think that if your deception doesnt directly hurt someone but it makes them feel better it is okay. However you should never decieve someone if you know that it could potentially hurt them.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with Lainas’ definition of deception. She is just making her friend feel better which is what good friends do. If she was dating her friends boyfriend and then telling her friend "he is missing his chance" that will be deception. However, I agree when she said that bad thing about deceiving your friends is that you are not being completely honest.
ReplyDeleteDeception or a lie is bad whether it's for a good cause. Being lied to is a bad feeling and you feel betrayed, so what makes it okay to lie to someone else? Even knowing that i still have lied to people in the past before. Recently someone stole my ipod and I didn't tell my parents because I was scared they would yell at me. So I just told them my friend had it. But my sister has a big mouth, she told my parents and they found out I lost it. Since I never told them i lost it in the first place I wont be getting a new ipod for a while. :( Right now i could be listening to my new ipod but because I just had to lie to my parents my new ipod is still in the store :(
ReplyDeleteI disagree with what Aatessa said. If making a friend feel better by lying is what good friends do then doesn't that mean a friendship is build up of all lies? Being a friend to me means to say anyhting and do anyhting and still be understood by that person. If truly a friend they wouldn't get mad at you for your own opinion.
ReplyDeleteI have decieved friends by telling them what they what to hear but not the whole truth because I did not want them to feel disappointed. I did not want to disappoint my friend because I did not want him to feel bad. He was angry when he found out the whole truth but not at me.
ReplyDeleteMiranda said something that caught my attention. She claims deception "always [ends with] a bad consequence." This is not alway true. In Amys case, her friends decieved her about her suprise party. It goes without saying that it all depends on if the decieving is for a good cause fo a bad cause. Sometimes deception is the right way to go in certain situations.
ReplyDeleteI have deceived my parents before. Whenever I have done something wrong, if my parents ask me about it, I will tell them what they want to hear (that I didn't do whatever it was) while picking my words the right way to also say that I did mess up. The reason that I did deceive my parents was because I thought the matter wasn't that important.
ReplyDeleteI agree with B. Betancur that sometimes the truth may be painful, but in the long run is better to say. Though I do not agree that B. Betancur has NEVER deceived anyone. No matter how hard we may try, eventually everyone lies or deceives at some point in their life, its just natural.
ReplyDeleteThere have been times where I have done something wrong and don't want my parents to find out. I use deception and tell them what they want to hear. However, this is usually not the correct path as truth is bound to be found.
ReplyDeleteI certainly have deceived people before, but not quite in the way Juliet does. Rather than saying both the truth and a lie through use of double meanings and wordplay, I more often than not simply tell an outright lie. When I attempt to "withhold the truth" as Juliet did, it usually ends up being extremely obvious, and will oftentimes lead to conflict and confrontation - this has happened more than once.
ReplyDeleteLike John Cardea, I too have deceived my parents before in small matters, as I oftentimes just lie to make things easier and preventing overreaction and conflict (an example being "Who ate the last piece of cake?")
ReplyDeleteAndrew, I don't think the deception you used to avoid disappointing your friends was necessary. I think that when you use deception to cover something up the truth will find a way to come out and make everything even worse. Honesty is usually the best path. Sometimes dealing with the consequences of your actions are better than trying to avoid it.
ReplyDeleteI have deceived my parents before but I have never done it the way Juliet did like she did to her parents. When I tried to deceive my parents I think my word play and the way I said it made my lie seem to noticeable and can see right through me. I don’t think I can be as clever as Juliet was with her wordplay. This happened when I lost my iPod and I didn’t want to tell my parents since I lost two other iPods before.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with Andrew. When it comes to a small matter like the last piece of cake I would own up to it because it really isn't a big deal. But if it were like who broken a fancy plate then I would deceive my parents.
ReplyDeleteI once was in a position when I deceived my dad by telling him what he wanted to hear to make him feel proud of me. He tried really hard to prepare this meal and when i tasted it, it was awful. But I knew how hard he tried so I told him it was delicious and even asked for seconds! When my sister(the much more outspoken one) told him how disgusting it was he was in total disbelief. I don't regret deceiving my father because atleast he thought one of his daughter's enjoyed his food!
ReplyDeleteI think Laina's situation was similar to mine and in some ways very necassary. People lie to protect others feelings and while that does not excuse the fact that we lied, at the end of the day we just don't want to be the one's to see the people we care about get hurt.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with Jenn. You shouldn't try to deceive your parents over a big problem like a lost iPod. They are very expensive and if you tell your parents, they have more power than you to try to help you get it back.
ReplyDeleteI used to often decive my parents about grades. If I didn't feel like doing something, i just lied and said that it was done because i thought that I'd always have time to do it later. However, this more oftentimes than not didnt happen, and just left my parents dissappointed when that D showed up on my report care . .. .
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I agree with Amy. while most deciets have bad outcomes, there are many who instead help make people happy. It mainly depends on the reason behind lying that determines its outcome.
I would deceive my parents about assignments in school because they would always be on me about getting it done in time. In the end though, it ended badly because I would wait until the last minute to do it and then I would ask for help about an assignment they didn't know about.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Amy because not all deception can end badly i.e. Amy's surprise party. It all depends on the situation and the circumstances.
I personally have been deceived by one of my friends before. I had told her something very important and asked her not to tell anyone. I had asked her if she had already told anyone about what I had told her,and she had said no. She was lying as she told me she didn't tell anyone, which was deception, because she did and didn't want me to be upset with her, so she told me what she thought I wanted to hear. In the end I had found out that she did tell someone what I had told her. In this case she should not have done this because in the end she just had gotten in to trouble.
ReplyDeleteI feel that in Dia's situation it was okay to use deception. Her dad had worked so hard to cook the meal it was okay to say it was good so he felt that his hard work had payed off. In some cases its okay to use deception mostly when they don't find out that your not telling the truth, and not to hurt someone's feelings which in Dia's case it had worked out.
ReplyDeleteDeception is the same thing as lying. I believe under all circumstances that lying is wrong and not acceptable. I caught myself lying to my parents without thinking once and felt very guilty afterwards. I later explained to them what really happened and they appreciated that I had told them the truth.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Jenn. If the matter is not that big a deal, then just own up to what you did. The consequences in the end aren't going to be really bad.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Leanna. When decieving people you are really just looking after them and their feelings, even if you know that they don't approve of the action. In the long run it all works out for the better. In Leanna's case she changed her study habbits and attained an A. Sometimes deception is a neccesary step in the process of maturing; ie. helping people in the process of dealing with deceptions of the future.
ReplyDeleteRachel Lee's deception was unnecessary. Lying for the fun of it is not smart and only makes you dishonest. Telling the truth is always better than lying.
ReplyDeleteDeception is generally bad, but sometimes it has better consequences than telling the truth. In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet lies to her mother about being married to Romeo because her mother's fury would do more harm than good. Occasionally, I will lie to my parents about having done a bit of homework I have. I will say I have, while I am really planning to do it during lunch, because it is more conveniant to me. I figure that if it gets done in time, why does it matter when I do it. At the time I always think my parents would be angry, but when I think back on it, I wonder if they would see my reasoning if I explained it. This is like what Liana said in the sense that it is perhaps best to tell someone what they want to hear at first. It is best to be on your friend's side of the battle because it will make them feel better, while going against them will only push them away. Later, you can tell them their mistake, but only after it is of no consequence to them anymore.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that i ever decieved someone the way Juliet does, she says one thing but means another.It would be to difficult for me to do that right to someones face. However, i have decieved some of my friends before. One major topic that i lie about is their crushes. When one of my friends tell me they think a guy is cute, i always agree regardless of what i truly think. i tell them exaclty what they would want to hear.My friends never find out what i really think about their crushes. I perfer to lie to them about their crushes then be rude or hurt their feelings. Although, if i knew something bad about the person i would tell them.
ReplyDeleteRebecca Manikkam Period 7
I have deceived my parents in my youth. For instance, one time i had been asked by my dad where i was going. I had lied to him saying that i was going to the park but actually i was going to my friends house which my parents didn't want me to hang out with since i was in trouble with them from a previous time. I didn't like my parents say of not letting me hangout with them. My parents soon had figured out that i had went to their house and i had then been grounded for a week
ReplyDeleteI cant remember any decieving things as Juliet has said but i do know ive said many...only out of kindness though. i do decieve though such as i did with my mother a while ago where i turn off my phone and say i couldnt find it 2 be out of house longer than i should be.
ReplyDeleteBecause there were a lot of people saying that lying almost always leads to bad thing i cant point out just one student...but i have to disagree with most because it only leads to bad things when u deceive or lie poorly when the other person can read your lies like a book....but if you do it correctly it almost always has a good outcome towards yourself. :P i would know from experince because ive done both lied poorly and amazingly and seen the outcomes of both.
I do not think that it was necessary for sarei to lie to her parents about certain things, even though it is not complete deception. i think she should just be completley honest with her parents because she was going to get in trouble anyway, so she might as a well tell the truth now.
ReplyDeleteRebecca Manikkam Period 7
During a time, Juliet decieves her parents because she wanted to hide the fact that she was already married to Romeo. I remember a time when i had decieved my friends and the consequences were bad. When they were in breakups with their boyfriends, I would often tell them that they weren't the one and that "He wasn't good enough." I told my friends what they wanted to hear but went and told others what i really felt and the consequences didn't turn out good.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Jenn. If I had ever lost my ipod, I would to lie to my parents. I don't think it is exactly nessessary too decieve my parents like that, but the consequences is what scares me the most
I have decieved my parents before just as Juliet has. I have avoided a subject or tried to change up my words so they couldn't tell what I actually meant so my parents would be happy. It was never an issue as important as marriage but it can change our relationship and how much we trust eachother when the real truth comes out. I have learned from experience that just telling the truth is the one and only thing to do even if it might hurt someones feelings. The truth will be revealed and you don't want it to come from someone else.
ReplyDeleteOne time I deceived someone was when I was supposed to be working on my homework but I was simultaneously talking to my friends via Facebook. My mom asked me if I was doing homework exclusively and, after exiting my internet browser, I said yes. I didn't want to hear what I knew would be another "you should be doing your homework!" speech so I lied to my mom. Looking back, I know she's just trying to get me to manage my time better.. Consequences: I ended up staying up late to finish my work.
ReplyDeleteI think Amy brought up a good point. Deception can end up for the better. Some deception with a good motive could end up for the worst, like telling your parents what they want to hear, or it could have a happy ending, like a surprise party your friends were keeping from you. It depends on the situation at hand and put into consideration what the truth would do. You have to ask the quetion: What would happen if I told the truth? Joy or frustration?
ReplyDeleteI agree with Laina because sometimes you don't tell your friends EXACTLY what you're thinking in order not to hurt their feelings.
ReplyDeleteI have many times deceived my mom. When I tell her I'm doing doing my homework but I'm really watching T.V or playin Wii. This way I can avoid doing chores. Though most of the time she finds out and gets really mad. I can't think of a time when I've deceived someone to a higher level like Juliet does.
ReplyDeleteIn Amy's case I think it was necessary for her friends to deceive her. It was necessary because if they hadn't the party wouldn't have been a surprise. Somethimes deception can have a positive result.
ReplyDeleteOne time one of my friends said that he wasnt going to be at school, but really i figured out later that he was on vacation.He did this because he promised me that he would take me to this vacation, but instead he took one of his friends from a different school. I guess didnt tell me that he was going on vacation so i wouldnt get mad. Instead he told me what i wanted to hear from him.
ReplyDeleteI do the same thing as lorena, i trick my dad into thinking im doing what he wants by telling him that im doing something he needs to get done, so he is hearing what he wants to hear, but im really not doing anything.
ReplyDeleteI have deceived my parents and friends sometimes, but it's never been about something as important as marriage, like in Juliet's case. I mostly tell small white lies, like saying i'm doing my homework when i'm really not, or something just to please a friend and not hurt her feelings. There are never really any major consequences,although sometimes the white lie does get a little too big. I tell them what they want to hear but unlike Juliet, my lies do not have a huge impact on our friendship.
ReplyDeleteI do not think it was completely necessary for Eruka to lie about her flute. I am not sure if i would have done the same thing in her situation. It is true, though, that a small lie can easily turn into a larger one. I think it was probably the easiest thing to do at the time, but later, after suffering the silent treatment from her parents, she probably realized not to lie about major things.
ReplyDeleteI sometimes deceive people because I want to tell them what they want to hear. For example, if I hate my friend's outfit one day and she asked what I thought of it, I might say that I think it looks interesting or ask where she bought it. This is mainly something I do for people that are not close to me, because I do not want to become upset with me or hurt their feelings. Although, I would tell my closer friends what I truly thought. In the end of deception, I usually feel that it was unnecessary and that I should just speak my mind without being rude.
ReplyDeleteJuliet decieves the people around her by telling them what they want to hear but she is really speaking the truth to herself with out others knowing. I sometimes decive my parents if i know somthing they might get angry about if they knew. I also sometimes decieve my friends like Julie said.( i dont always like to do it because i have a really big guilty consince)
ReplyDeleteI do not think that Akshay's example was deception.Blatantly lying is not deception. The way Juliet decieved her parents was through using double meanings and not telling the whole truth while Akshay lied. Decpetion is dileberatly misleading someone's thought while lying is not telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteI've had to deceive my mother on more than one occasion . I believed telling her about the "extra curricular activities" of my stepfather would hurt her feelings more than she could bear so i withheld the truth . this turned out to be unnecessary because she found out regardless and resulted in a divorce .
ReplyDelete"In Laina's case I do think deception is necessary because sometimes your opinions can turn into hurtful things."
ReplyDeletei disagree with Miranda's reply to Lain b/c deception is never necessary . we only deceive with the hope that they will not find out. when they do , as they always do , they are only more hurt .
I've deceived my friends before regarding if I can hang out or not. Some times I want to hang out with one of my friends but not the other one. As a result in some cases, I felt it was necessary to lie to my other friend and tell them i wasnt hanging out with my other friend when i really was. i thought that if i lied it would prevent a fight or hurt feelings but it only aggravated the situation. after deceiving my friends in the past, i learned that honesty is whats important in a friendship.
ReplyDeletei agree with haley when she says that consequences can be worse if you lie. if u tell the truth in the first place, then it shows that you are owning up to your actions and it exemplifies responsibilty. however, if u lie you not only dig yourself a deeper hole, but you are being afraid to admit your wrong doing.
ReplyDeleteI once decided to deceive a friend when they asked me for someones number that they wanted and I told them I didn't have it. But I secretly did. I think its ok to lie to someone like that if its not going to have a major impact in the future. But if it does, then its probably not a good idea.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what Julie said because its simply a white lie and fairly harmless.
Sometimes I do tend to deceive my parents on simple things, maybe because i'm forgetful, but I would say that for example, I've practiced piano, but I never did, but that's just what they want to hear. The reason I usually do this is because i'm usually lazy or I just don't want to. I also agree with Alli's response, but not entirely, I would at least notify the other friend and be honest about who i'm hanging out with instead of them. It's understandable and it can be necessary at times and unnecessary at other times.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I do deceive people or have been decieved by others, but it depends on the circumstance if it is acceptable to me or not. Small deceptions I feel are okay, as long as they have no lasting effect. For example I have decieved my parents before by saying I was doing my homework when I was actually using my ipod or texting my friends, I feel this deception is okay because it has no lasting effect if they find out. I agree with Kenny that deception can be necessary and unnecessary at times. If it was about something that doesn't need to be lied about, although lying is never necessary, if it was something that would help others by lying then I feel it is okay to lie. If the lie is about something dumb and not going to hurt someone then I think deception is not okay.
ReplyDeleteI also tend to deceive my parents, usually on simple things. Like this one time, my mom bought her favorite drink and brought it home in the kitchen. I wanted some, so I poured some, and accidently simple most of it. Scared, I drank the rest, wiped the mess, and threw out the carton outside, hoping it will all die down soon. Then, later when she came home and found out it was gone, I blamed it on my brother, and she believed me because she trusted me. Later on that week, I ended up telling her the truth, and our trust has slowly weakend after deception and lieing like that.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what Kenny said because, sometimes we decieve our parents because its what they want to hear. Like with the whole piano incident with kenny, he doesnt want to upset his parents and tell them that he still hasn't practiced, he just wants them to think well of him. So, I think Kenny's deception, at times is neccesary.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Kenny because it is okay to deceive someone for a little reason but you should tell them later what you did. Also, deception or lying is good in certain situations but can be very dangerous in other times.
ReplyDeletei agree with kenny since honestly at times you do have to lie or deceive someone. It may not sound right but it has to be done at times just not all the time. Theres a difference when you do it for no real reason.
ReplyDeleteUm yea i have deceive a friend but not for a wrong reason. They had many problems going on so i had to say some things to get there spirits up even if it wasnt exactly the truth. I did no harm. When juliet did it she harmed no one really since she was just tell her mom what she wanted to hear to save her from getting in a fight or something
ReplyDeleteI have decieved a friend before but it was just a practical joke and I told him the truth a couple minutes later, Juliet lies to her family and never tells them the truth, which can make people think you are untrustworthy. I agree with kenny because sometimes it is necesary to decieve someone to protect them or when it is to their benefit.
ReplyDeleteI believe what Rebecca does is necessary. It is not a big deal to simply say that you think someone is cute who you don't really find attractive. I agree that if you do know something bad, then you should not lie about the person though.
ReplyDeleteDishonesty, lies, and deception are the cornerstones of hatred. Unfortunately, they appear time and time again throughout life. Some may say that dishonesty is a "quick fix" or the "easy way out". I won't deny that lying can be simpler than the truth, but this "quick fix" can only last so long. "Truth will out" in the end, and when it does, it is like a tornado destroying everything in it's path. There is no telling how many feelings could get hurt or even lives torn apart. Even little white lies can be destructive. Some lead people on, thinking that it will be easier than simply telling them the truth upfront. It is true that the truth can be painfully brutal, especially in cases like these. In these instances, it is best just to say what you feel in the nicest way possible and hope for the best to avoid unnessecary conflict in the future.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has deceived someone at one point of HIS or HER life ( did i do it right? idk). Don't say that you haven't cuz you have! Has a teacher ever said, " are you ready for this test?" and you said "YES!", but inside, you were thinking "HECK TO THE NAAWW". OK that's what I thought. As for Juliet, she wanted to stall so that she could think of a way to get out of the wedding to Paris. It may not have been the best idea, but it worked (until she died of course)
ReplyDeleteI guess a times where I am deceitful are when I KNOW im not supposed to be up, and my parents would kill me if they knew i was, so i mess up my hair, and put a disheveled look on my face, a limp, and a groggy voice if they ask me questions. It is for the best trust me, because I'm going to bed any way....which is what they wanted after all :)
Alli, you are so right. It is much easier to let a friend know that you had plans already, if they can't deal with that, then they need to go. It is simple. I had a previous engagement, and i'm going to stick to that.
ReplyDeleteJuliet deceives the people around her because she doesn't want to start trouble or just wants to get the conversation over with. I have deceived my parents many times. Especially when they ask the famous question, "did you learn from your mistake...are you going to ever do this again?" I tell them that I've learned and I won't do it anymore but in my head I'm saying to myself,"ha ya right." But I don't want my parents to keep talking to me, I wanted it to just get over with. A consequence was, the next time I did the same thing they realized I hadn't learned.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with part of what Anthony said. You can’t lie amazingly. I’ve lied myself, but I’ve realized no matter what, you end up feeling guilty because that person doesn’t know what’s going on when you do. You shouldn’t lie because even if you think you’ll be fine and you’re so good at lying that that person would never find out, they might know and not tell you. It hurts them or you’re hurt with the guilt or watching them going on without knowing the truth. When you lie, even if they don’t find out, a saying is, what comes around goes around. So if they don’t realize one day you’ll be on the other end being lied to and you might not even know it.
ReplyDeleteYes, i had deceived someone like the way Juliet did to Paris. I have deceived my parents so they will think that my grades were good, when they were not. This led to s consequence when they got my report card. I have learned that deceiving is a very negative thing....it always has some kind of consequence.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Justin because if you deceive someone for the greater good, then there is no reason why you shouldn't. If you know that deceiving might have a consequence, then you should think it over, because if people know that you're deceiving them, than you will lose your trust
ReplyDeleteDeceiving should never be an answer to something, unless it is the ONLY way out,
ReplyDeleteArnelle! true! if you take deceiving as lieing, then of course everyone has done it, but i take deceiving as backstabbing. so it doesnt really count if you have lied,
ReplyDeletesometimes i deceive my parents by saying I'm done with my homework when i really haven't even started. the only person this hurts is myself even though my mom gets upset also.
ReplyDeletei agree with lorena because even though it makes my mom angry when she sees edline she is happy at the time that i lie to her, because im saying what she wants to hear.
ReplyDeletesometimes i decieve my friends because i know they are hurt but sometimes lying to them is the best way to make them feel better.sometimes i just tell them what they want to hear. Like in Romeo and Juliet the juliet decieves Paris and tells him what he wqants to hear. Juliet only did that so Paris could leave her alone.
ReplyDeletei agree with Brittany because juliet does decieve people so that she doesn't start trouble.but juliet also does decieve people just so she can get her way
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